14 For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. 15 For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received a spirit of adoption. When we cry, "Abba! Father!" 16 it is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are children of God, 17 and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ--if, in fact, we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him. (Rom. 8:14-17)
We are all adopted Children of God!
To imply that infertility is the only reason for adoption denigrates the beauty of adoption.
It implies that we are conceiving out of love, but adopting out of last resort. God tells us that all who are led by the spirit are children of God. That he loves all of us, and because of that, he makes us heirs of God and joint heirs with CHRIST! Praise God!
I am aware of the fact that because of societies long believed myth that adoption is second rate, I will have to defend my family and our choices and protect our children as much as possible, it makes me sad that my kids aren't even home yet, and I am already feeling the need to defend our family.
Simply stated, Infertility is not the only reason for adoption. To imply otherwise suggests that adoption is a second option, and therefore inferior. Our family will be made by adoption, not as a second option, but as an equally beautiful option, and we will make sure that our children, adopted or not, are all adopted children of God, and that they know that adoption is beautiful!
-Megan
A blog that has turned it's focus from the pain of infertility to the journey of foster care (though we never got a single call!) to the joy of adoption! We are currently in the process of adopting three amazing and beautiful children. Come join us on our journey!
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- Vanessa and Chris's Adoption Blog
- Nikki's Blog
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- The Stages of My Journey
- Fertilize Me
- Sometimes it's the Destination
- Sibling for Cecelia
- The Fostering Rohloffs
- The Sticky Bean Preconception Journal
- Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters
- Ovusoft, Taking Charge of Your Fertility
5 comments:
Now that is a beautiful post!
thank you.
I've been reading the last few posts and want to say that I hear you about having to "defend" but want to say that for me, I'm glad you "explained." Although I wasn't judging your decision to foster/adopt, I had assumed like others that it was as a result of not being able to bear your own right now. Your description of your decision-making process was very helpful in fully understanding your choices. I am glad to know it.
Adopted Children are your own. I am so frustrated at reading people on infertility sites refer to biological kids as "their own"...all children whom you are the legal and physical parents to are yours.
And no, adoption is not second best-what people do when all else fails. It is a calling.
You don't have to defend your desire to adopt, but you might have to defend your desire to spend thousands of dollars to try to conceive when there are millions of orphans without parents.
that might be the case if we were planning on spending thousands of dollars on fertility treatments. Thankfully I don't feel the need to defend my finances, as that is a private matter that doesn't need to be discussed with friends and family and especially strangers.
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