Turns out we were actually scammed 2 years ago when we started this adoption journey. I am so thankful that we refused to send them money as they asked, because we'd be out $20,000 today.
http://www.topix.com/forum/city/little-rock-ar/TRNVL7PAO8CMIA19M
and this: http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/218/RipOff0218602.htm
and this: http://arkansasmatters.com/content/fulltext/news?cid=204061
There are now well over 70 families who have filed complaints, so far we are not one of them, but we will be calling our adoption attorney tomorrow to see if there is anything that can be done. (we were out a small amount of money comparatively). Plus, justice needs to be done if possible in this situation.
I'll post more about it later, but I am going to 'try' to fall asleep here in the next few min.
-Megan
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Monday, March 30, 2009
Lemonade award!
Alright, since I have been awarded this twice now, (wow, I am lazy!) I am finally getting around to doing this!
I don't know if I have 10 people who make lemonade out of lemons in their life, because I am relatively new to the blog-o-sphere, and I don't have time to follow more than a couple of blogs.. so here goes!
This award is given to a blog that shows great attitude or gratitude.
Here are the rules for accepting this award:
1. Put the logo on your blog or post (it's up there at the top as proud as proud can be);
2. Nominate at least 10 blogs that show great attitude or gratitude (I know we're all busy but I hope you will find the time to visit these wonderful blogs and be blessed as you read how many of them have turned life's lemons into lemonade);
3. Link to your nominees within your post (check out my list of winners below);
4. Let them know that they have received this award by commenting on their blog (I'll be doing that soon - I hope!);
5. Share the love and link to this post and person from whom you received the award (Thank you Holly and Mandi!).
Ok, so as previously stated, I don't follow many blogs, so here is my list:
Katie and Josh. I love reading her blog on parenting. She is a blessed mommy with a great attitude!
Steph and Chris She is my favorite foster mom, who, whether she knows it or not, is a great role model and mentor for me.
Holly and Chris, of course. I know, she gave it to me, but really, I only follow so many blogs!
My dear friend Nikki. Who is, unfortunately, having to learn about making lemons right now. Go on over and give her some love this week!
Vanessa and Chris. They have a heart for adoption, and that takes a great attitude! Go on over and give them some encouragement as they welcome new babies to their home!
Mandi and PC. Another award giver. Soon to be foster parents extraordinaire!
Thank you, ladies for giving me this award.. I don't win things very often! Hope I can continue to make lemonade when life gives me lemons!
-Megan
Sunday, March 29, 2009
a Reminder and a Request
Because sometimes I need a reminder too:
Sometimes I get down about not being a parent. Sometimes I feel that satan is just taunting me, and that I will never be a parent.
We've been waiting for 9 months now (as licensed foster parents) and 4 years since we started trying to get pregnant.
It took me this long to figure this out. And sometimes I still need a reminder.
We are not supposed to trust God (firstly, anyway) as the provider of children. We are supposed to trust God as our salvation. That He sent His Son to die an atoning death for us, while we were still sinners. That we are wretched, and He gave us hope, not that we would be parents, but that He would adopt US! That is what we are supposed to focus on. His plan for us is that we become HIS family. He has promised us who want it, that we will be made the "Happy mother of children." He has commanded us to take care of the widows and orphans, but in order to truly do that, we must FIRST realize that it is Him we are supposed to be leaning on. His promise of salvation, not a promise of a family. Then, and only then, can we truly be parents when the times comes!
For those of you who have been praying for B and I, I would appreciate it if you would pray that we both hold tight to God's first promise, that those who repent and believe will be saved. That we have a new father, God, because of the atoning death of His Son, Jesus Christ, who is the way, the truth and the life. We ask you to pray that one day, in His perfect time, that we can share the love of Christ with His children. Also, please pray for all the other foster parents out there, especially those who aren't saved, as I can't imagine trying to do this without the saving grace and love of Jesus.
-Megan
Sometimes I get down about not being a parent. Sometimes I feel that satan is just taunting me, and that I will never be a parent.
We've been waiting for 9 months now (as licensed foster parents) and 4 years since we started trying to get pregnant.
It took me this long to figure this out. And sometimes I still need a reminder.
We are not supposed to trust God (firstly, anyway) as the provider of children. We are supposed to trust God as our salvation. That He sent His Son to die an atoning death for us, while we were still sinners. That we are wretched, and He gave us hope, not that we would be parents, but that He would adopt US! That is what we are supposed to focus on. His plan for us is that we become HIS family. He has promised us who want it, that we will be made the "Happy mother of children." He has commanded us to take care of the widows and orphans, but in order to truly do that, we must FIRST realize that it is Him we are supposed to be leaning on. His promise of salvation, not a promise of a family. Then, and only then, can we truly be parents when the times comes!
For those of you who have been praying for B and I, I would appreciate it if you would pray that we both hold tight to God's first promise, that those who repent and believe will be saved. That we have a new father, God, because of the atoning death of His Son, Jesus Christ, who is the way, the truth and the life. We ask you to pray that one day, in His perfect time, that we can share the love of Christ with His children. Also, please pray for all the other foster parents out there, especially those who aren't saved, as I can't imagine trying to do this without the saving grace and love of Jesus.
-Megan
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
baby news for a friend!
Just wanted to write a post about my friend Diane!
I am so excited for her!
She had her first ultrasound today for this pregnancy, she's 8 weeks, 2 days pregnant, and the baby is fine and healthy! She even got to hear the heartbeat for the first time today!
After losing 5 babies to early miscarriage, like me, she finally got good news today!
Please join me in praying for her and her little peanut!
-Megan
I am so excited for her!
She had her first ultrasound today for this pregnancy, she's 8 weeks, 2 days pregnant, and the baby is fine and healthy! She even got to hear the heartbeat for the first time today!
After losing 5 babies to early miscarriage, like me, she finally got good news today!
Please join me in praying for her and her little peanut!
-Megan
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Adventures in Eidson land.
So Baron and I have been talking about a new adventure lately.
Here is what led us to this maybe path:
1. We need money. I quit my job due to moral objections, and now we're running out of money. Not fun.
2. We both really want to go into the ministry. (me as an avid supporter of my ever faithful husband's dream and calling, or as a partner, depending on what we're led to do).
3. We know we feel called to take care of orphans. (Or, by some terrible circumstance, children who need new parents whether that be temporarily, or permanent)
4. We both realized we are at a point in our faith, where we are willing to give up whatever it takes to serve God in His calling on our lives. What an amazing feeling to realize that this is all just stuff, and it doesn't belong to us anyway, and there are more important things to do than to just do whatever is needed to maintain our current lifestyle! Such a blessing!
We'll see where this ends us, but we think it may have something to do with foster-care. We are putting some effort into researching foster care group homes. Not sure if we're "qualified" but it's something we'd love to do. More to come, maybe, if it is God's will for us at this time.
-Megan
Here is what led us to this maybe path:
1. We need money. I quit my job due to moral objections, and now we're running out of money. Not fun.
2. We both really want to go into the ministry. (me as an avid supporter of my ever faithful husband's dream and calling, or as a partner, depending on what we're led to do).
3. We know we feel called to take care of orphans. (Or, by some terrible circumstance, children who need new parents whether that be temporarily, or permanent)
4. We both realized we are at a point in our faith, where we are willing to give up whatever it takes to serve God in His calling on our lives. What an amazing feeling to realize that this is all just stuff, and it doesn't belong to us anyway, and there are more important things to do than to just do whatever is needed to maintain our current lifestyle! Such a blessing!
We'll see where this ends us, but we think it may have something to do with foster-care. We are putting some effort into researching foster care group homes. Not sure if we're "qualified" but it's something we'd love to do. More to come, maybe, if it is God's will for us at this time.
-Megan
Monday, March 23, 2009
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Vampires and old age?
Oh my goodness.. I just realized that I am almost 26. For some reason that feels so much older than 25 felt.
Maybe it's because I am re-reading the Twilight saga. *grins*
I am officially obsessed. I can't help it. Really.. have you read them?
Lol.. ok, so now back to my sick bed. (stomach bug again. I'm waiting on my rice to boil so I can eat some rice cereal)
-Megan
Maybe it's because I am re-reading the Twilight saga. *grins*
I am officially obsessed. I can't help it. Really.. have you read them?
Lol.. ok, so now back to my sick bed. (stomach bug again. I'm waiting on my rice to boil so I can eat some rice cereal)
-Megan
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Homestudy submitted.
Well, We put in our homestudy again for a pair of boys. Aged 3 and 4. Boy, that would be fun! (pun intended) I am excited, they are way cute, and young, and somehow over the past few months I've realized that having all boys would be fun. I guess we'll see. Deadline for homestudies is the 25th of this month, so we certainly won't know anything for a few weeks. I am not sure how long after that we'll hear anything, but let's hope we get shortlisted and get to go to staffing!
-Megan
-Megan
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Letter to our future children.
Dear little one,
Although I do not know you yet, I wanted to write a letter to express how much I love you already. I wanted to write you a letter, so that when you're old enough, you can read it and understand why your father and I learned to love you before we even knew you. I wanted you to be able to put this in your life book someday.
I don't know you yet. I don't know who you are, what shade of skin you have, what hair color or eye color you have, if you have freckles like me, or sad irish eyes like your dad.
Some days as I walk around in my little world, grocery shopping, or window shopping, I look into the eyes of the children I see and wonder if you will look like them. I hear that when women are pregnant, they start to wonder if their baby will have green eyes like mommy, or brown hair like daddy. If they will have grandma's chin or grandpa's nose. I don't know, because I've never been that pregnant. But I have all kinds of features to wonder about, across all of humanity, a beautiful rainbow of features that our God made. Will you be brown skinned? I'm not. I am pale skinned and freckled. But it doesn't matter. I already love you. Will you have green eyes like me and your daddy? Or do you have blue eyes? It doesn't matter. I already love you. I don't even know what you will look like, and I love you so much, sometimes it makes me cry. I don't care if you look exactly like me or your father, or if you don't look anything like me or your father. I love you already.
Will you be hurting? Will your little heart ever get over the bad things you've seen or been a victim of? Will you ever learn to love your father and I like other children? It doesn't matter. We already love you. Will you get to stay with us or will you have to go back to your biological family some day? It doesn't matter. We already love you, and we will keep loving you in whatever way we can.
I pray often that you will get to come to us soon, that you are no longer hurting, that you know that it is safe here. That you know that we love you already. Even before we know your name.
One day, about 2 and a half years ago, God started speaking to my heart. He told me that we were going to adopt children. I argued and fought with Him for months, fearing that I would be unable to live up to what you needed. Fearing that my love wouldn't be enough to fix your broken heart. Fearing that I was not good enough to be your mother. And He told me, gently, that it was not only my love that I would be giving you, but His too. The cool thing is that although We don't know you yet, we don't know your name, or your face, God does. He knows your hurt, and He knows your heart, and He loves you so much. He loves you so much that He gave His only Son so that someday, you may be healed from all of your hurts, and that most importantly, you may have eternal life with Him. And God wants ME to share that love with you. I am probably the most blessed mommy out there, that He would trust me to pass that love along to you.
Know this: that your mommy and your daddy loved you even before they met you. God loved you even before he made you, and He sent you to us so that we could share that love with you.
-Mommy (and Daddy)
Although I do not know you yet, I wanted to write a letter to express how much I love you already. I wanted to write you a letter, so that when you're old enough, you can read it and understand why your father and I learned to love you before we even knew you. I wanted you to be able to put this in your life book someday.
I don't know you yet. I don't know who you are, what shade of skin you have, what hair color or eye color you have, if you have freckles like me, or sad irish eyes like your dad.
Some days as I walk around in my little world, grocery shopping, or window shopping, I look into the eyes of the children I see and wonder if you will look like them. I hear that when women are pregnant, they start to wonder if their baby will have green eyes like mommy, or brown hair like daddy. If they will have grandma's chin or grandpa's nose. I don't know, because I've never been that pregnant. But I have all kinds of features to wonder about, across all of humanity, a beautiful rainbow of features that our God made. Will you be brown skinned? I'm not. I am pale skinned and freckled. But it doesn't matter. I already love you. Will you have green eyes like me and your daddy? Or do you have blue eyes? It doesn't matter. I already love you. I don't even know what you will look like, and I love you so much, sometimes it makes me cry. I don't care if you look exactly like me or your father, or if you don't look anything like me or your father. I love you already.
Will you be hurting? Will your little heart ever get over the bad things you've seen or been a victim of? Will you ever learn to love your father and I like other children? It doesn't matter. We already love you. Will you get to stay with us or will you have to go back to your biological family some day? It doesn't matter. We already love you, and we will keep loving you in whatever way we can.
I pray often that you will get to come to us soon, that you are no longer hurting, that you know that it is safe here. That you know that we love you already. Even before we know your name.
One day, about 2 and a half years ago, God started speaking to my heart. He told me that we were going to adopt children. I argued and fought with Him for months, fearing that I would be unable to live up to what you needed. Fearing that my love wouldn't be enough to fix your broken heart. Fearing that I was not good enough to be your mother. And He told me, gently, that it was not only my love that I would be giving you, but His too. The cool thing is that although We don't know you yet, we don't know your name, or your face, God does. He knows your hurt, and He knows your heart, and He loves you so much. He loves you so much that He gave His only Son so that someday, you may be healed from all of your hurts, and that most importantly, you may have eternal life with Him. And God wants ME to share that love with you. I am probably the most blessed mommy out there, that He would trust me to pass that love along to you.
Know this: that your mommy and your daddy loved you even before they met you. God loved you even before he made you, and He sent you to us so that we could share that love with you.
-Mommy (and Daddy)
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Hard choices and hard wired?
All right, I guess it's time to post another blog.
Sorry I am so bad at it sometimes! Guess that it's not that high on my priority list when it comes down to it.
So, let's see.. the update:
I think we've had one more call since the last time I posted, Mala called to tell us we were going to staffing about a sibling group, with a 5 month old baby boy and a 2.5 year old girl. They went to another family. Turns out we don't have enough experience with babies who were exposed to drugs. (Praise the Lord! Though if that's where He leads, us, that's where we'll go!)
We're trying to get our bathroom/closet remodel done before my dear friend, Diane gets here from Canada early next month. So I pushed Baron to try to get the electrical work done yesterday. Boy was that a mistake. Sweet husband, is not good at electrical work. Turns out when he did it for a living (as an apprentice) all he learned was when the lunch cart came, and how to race certain things with wheels that are commonly found on the construction site. Great. So we had to call an electrician. $520 later, we have the bathroom rewired, and an estimate for $10,000 of things that need to be done to bring our house up to code. Thankfully because these things are original to the house, we don't have to actually bring them up to code.. But they said some of the things do present a safety issue. It's ok though. I have little faith in a company that was going to insist on putting -6- fire alarms in a tiny tiny house!! We already have 2, and 2 more to be installed if we so please, but really, 6? in a 1,500 sqft house? You've got to be kidding me!
I have also decided to try to get into graduate school! I would like to go to UTD's joint Master's/PhD program in Communication Sciences and Disorders. Because I'd be working on both at one time, it'd take me a lot less time to do both. Basically, although I had planned on staying at home during my kids early life, I will be able to work school hours if I so choose, so it would be better all around for our family in the long run.
I guess that's about it!
Stay tuned for more.
-Megan
Sorry I am so bad at it sometimes! Guess that it's not that high on my priority list when it comes down to it.
So, let's see.. the update:
I think we've had one more call since the last time I posted, Mala called to tell us we were going to staffing about a sibling group, with a 5 month old baby boy and a 2.5 year old girl. They went to another family. Turns out we don't have enough experience with babies who were exposed to drugs. (Praise the Lord! Though if that's where He leads, us, that's where we'll go!)
We're trying to get our bathroom/closet remodel done before my dear friend, Diane gets here from Canada early next month. So I pushed Baron to try to get the electrical work done yesterday. Boy was that a mistake. Sweet husband, is not good at electrical work. Turns out when he did it for a living (as an apprentice) all he learned was when the lunch cart came, and how to race certain things with wheels that are commonly found on the construction site. Great. So we had to call an electrician. $520 later, we have the bathroom rewired, and an estimate for $10,000 of things that need to be done to bring our house up to code. Thankfully because these things are original to the house, we don't have to actually bring them up to code.. But they said some of the things do present a safety issue. It's ok though. I have little faith in a company that was going to insist on putting -6- fire alarms in a tiny tiny house!! We already have 2, and 2 more to be installed if we so please, but really, 6? in a 1,500 sqft house? You've got to be kidding me!
I have also decided to try to get into graduate school! I would like to go to UTD's joint Master's/PhD program in Communication Sciences and Disorders. Because I'd be working on both at one time, it'd take me a lot less time to do both. Basically, although I had planned on staying at home during my kids early life, I will be able to work school hours if I so choose, so it would be better all around for our family in the long run.
I guess that's about it!
Stay tuned for more.
-Megan
Thursday, March 5, 2009
yet again...
No good news for us from yesterday. The kids went to another family.
I guess that's it for now. I'll keep you updated as we get calls. Hopefully one of these days, we'll get kids too. But really, all in God's perfect time. Not mine.
-Megan
I guess that's it for now. I'll keep you updated as we get calls. Hopefully one of these days, we'll get kids too. But really, all in God's perfect time. Not mine.
-Megan
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
News and allergies.
wow! it's been a while since I posted last!
No official news yet, but our social worker goes to staffing for us tomorrow, in hopes that we will walk away proud parents of 2 kiddos! We'll know something definite by tomorrow (today if you count the fact that it's half past midnight here!) 3pm.
Keep your eyes open for updates!
That's about all I can say, or feel like saying right now (more on that in a min.)
Well, spring has sprung in the great state of Texas. I have itchy eyes, scratchy throat, runny nose, and worst of all, a rash from my chest to the top of my head.. yes... even in my hair too. ICK!!!
I guess it's better than a cold or flu, but gah! I will be glad when summer comes!
-Megan
No official news yet, but our social worker goes to staffing for us tomorrow, in hopes that we will walk away proud parents of 2 kiddos! We'll know something definite by tomorrow (today if you count the fact that it's half past midnight here!) 3pm.
Keep your eyes open for updates!
That's about all I can say, or feel like saying right now (more on that in a min.)
Well, spring has sprung in the great state of Texas. I have itchy eyes, scratchy throat, runny nose, and worst of all, a rash from my chest to the top of my head.. yes... even in my hair too. ICK!!!
I guess it's better than a cold or flu, but gah! I will be glad when summer comes!
-Megan
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