privacy please!

A reminder to my readers, old and new:

Any kind of news (pregnancy/adoption) will be posted here first, a place where I can vent and gather support in a semi-private place w/o having to announce to (some) immediate family and the whole world what is going on until I am ready. Any adoption news can be talked about publicly as soon as I announce it here, as I will be posting the same on FB or making calls to those who I call for news like that (Elaine).

Pregnancy news has not been too well received in the past, mostly probably because I've had to announce shortly after giving such news that we lost the baby. Also others feel that it will be disruptive to our adoption, but this is mostly from people who do not understand the situation and have not themselves, adopted. (The topic has been discussed with social workers, therapists and other adoptive moms who have been pregnant while fostering so I am confident in our decision, especially since I would classify our "issues" to have progressed to normal kid "issues" and not adopted kid "issues")

We will also not be telling our children until we hear the heartbeat of any future pregnancies, so if you know our kids, don't even talk to them about it until I post the "OK". This is hopefully to spare them the heartache that comes with recurrent pregnancy loss (RPL), until they are old enough to handle the information, which they are not yet at such an early stage in a pregnancy (pre-heart beat) due to the abstract nature of early pregnancy to those who are not feeling it themselves.

SO, in summary, anything posted here about pregnancy stays HERE.. and nowhere else until I post a post that says that it is ok to talk about it in other forums. Adoption stuff is fair game and can be talked about in any forum unless otherwise specified. ;) If in doubt, ask privately first before you say anything publicly about any pregnancy or adoption related news. :)

-Megan

and hopefully I made it clear that I am not actually announcing anything yet. We still have about another week to wait for any news on the pregnancy front.